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Break Free from Sexual Addiction by Getting God Involved The most powerful thing I do at this website is pray for people who want to break free from Christian sexual addiction.
If you’ve tried other things and they didn’t work how about giving prayer a chance?
Please Please Please leave your prayer request below so that I can pray for you. God Bless, Deacon Pepper
It is something I thought I had gotten away from but I guess not I’ve been a christian since 1983 and I married a wonderful women in 1984 and our marriage was good for the first 5 to six yrs.I had anger problems and I was a alcoholic/drug addict. We have 2 beautiful children who are very committed to serving Christ.But thats not the problem I am,we were together for 16yrs.until she could take no more.We’ve been seperated for almost 10yrs.My marriage fell apart because of my anger,alcoholism/drug addiction,and things she said I lied about to her.Our sexual relations ended because of this and I started to view porn and sexually abuse myself. I’ve had some problems as to being sexually abused when I was in the military and I was extremely intoxicated when it happened.It has always bothered me and I’ve even gotten counseling for it,but Satan constantly reminds me of it. I’ve gotten counseling for my anger and alcoholism/drug addiction and God has helped me and taken it away from me.I stopped viewing pornography and have been trying to be very committed to Christ.But recently I’ve looking at it again because of loneliness and depression and then I feel extremely dirty afterwards. I don’t want to look at this stuff and I hate looking at it.But I’m having a great deal of trouble fighting it,and it is a sin I can’t seem to conquer.I’m asking for prayer and I’m asking for help because when this happens it hurts in my heart and in my spirit. I live alone and I’m medically retired and I don’t have many friends.My wife doesn’t want anything to do with me,but I don’t beieve in divorce. I apologize for being long winded and talking about everything in my life but I’m asking for your help with this pornography problem.Thank you for listening. Please pray for Steven. We all have our strengths and weakness in dealing with Christian sexual addiction. But I just praise the Lord that we can all support each other through the power of prayer.
God Bless Deacon Pepper
The phrase “We are more than conquerors” suggests that a person gains more in his attempt to reach a goal than he does in actually reaching the goal. The goal itself is not the ultimate victory. The trials faced in reaching a goal strengthen us and help us grow spiritually and break free from sexual sin. We must be careful to avoid falling into a trap of thinking that every trial we are faced with is a trial that will make us stronger. When we go through trials, we have to consciously decide that we are going to meet the adversity head on and come out on the other side a better person. Otherwise, we may find ourselves doubting God and giving in to some very destructive paths of thinking. We must resist sin and remain grounded in our faith in order to virtuously weather the storm. Let’s think about this for a moment, because the idea that our transgressions make us stronger is a widely accepted by men, but is a fallacy. You may have heard someone say that we have to dwell in the darkness to be able to recognize the beauty of the light. In other words, we have to know sin in order to know righteousness. Scores of popular theologians teach this most dangerous of doctrines! They spout empty proverbs such as “Boys will be boys” and “We’re only human” in an attempt to condone sexual sin. They tell us it’s okay to go out and sow our wild oats now because when we’re older, we’ll be all the wiser for it. The idea that it’s okay to sin now because it will teach us how to live better in the future is completely false and contrary to Paul’s teachings. Paul tells us that by resisting temptation and handling ourselves in a Godly way through our times of trial, we will come out wise and stronger. He doesn’t tell us that falling into sin will make us stronger. Each sin we commit, even the smallest one in the eyes of man, can completely distort our view of what is right and what is wrong. Think of lying. It might be hard for us to tell that first lie, but the next is easier, and the one after that even more so, until we lies flow from our mouths just like the truth. Every sin we commit not only hurts our relationship with God, but it damages our influence with people who do not know God. We have to strive to do good, and good is worlds away from evil. Do you think that someone who has lived in a hole and has never seen the beautiful light of dawn rising over the mountains knows more of its beauty than the one who created the beauty and knows every glorious detail, every hue of the sunrise, well enough to paint it by heart? No! That person who has lived in sin is so in debt to the mercy and goodness of our Savior that he won’t be able to enjoy the good gifts from God the way that one who has refrained from sin will. It is a falsehood to say that one must know sin in order to know righteousness, and it is just as false to say that our failures make us stronger. Where we have our victory is in resisting temptation. There are opportunities to sin on every hand, but it takes a truly sound and steadfast faith to do what we know is right. I will admit that a person who has been forgiven after having lived a very sinful life may be more grateful to God than a person who has lived according to God’s word from a child. But, I don’t think that the person who has lived a very sinful life and has been forgiven is any stronger. True strength comes from walking daily in faith and dealing with our sexual sin. Paul speaks to us about turning away from temptation, and we must do that every day in our walk with God in order to grow as Christians. God Bless Deacon Pepper
After a few years of marriage to me, he became a full blown dangerous addict, sleeping with many prostitutes and having multiple girlfriends. All this behind my back of course. Eventually I found out. Even now he is seeing atleast 2 girls. I don’t divorce him because I still believe that God can heal him. Also, my sons LOVE their daddy. But emotionally I feel divorced from him. I love him only as a lost brother in Christ who needs my prayer. He always says he loves me, and I believe he thinks he does, but I know that an addict is only capable of loving his addiction. I would be very grateful to anyone who would be willing to pray for him. May God bless your prayer ministry abundantly. If anybody has time to send up a quick or not so quick prayer I know it would bless her heart. Also if you have any encouraging words for her, or to let her know that you prayer for her it is always an encouragement to hear. Deacon Pepper God will see you through all the affects that Christian sexual addiction has done to you and your family. God Bless You Zach for sharing your story on Christian sexual addiction, I know the desire for many others is just like your, to feel God’s love again.
it got to where i would watch porn once a week and now usually once every four days. the stuff has gotten worse and worse. now i sturggle with homosexuality in porn which i think has some stuff that happened when i was a kid but i can’t be sure. God has been working in me. I have joined a course called setitng the captives free which has been helpfull. i have made a weekd for the first time in what i think is a few years. I have hope now that one day i might be free. Just pray for encouregment adn that god would forgive me everytime i fall and WIll one day take me from my mess and make me pure. i want to feel his love again. Please pray for Zach in regards to Christian sexual addiction in whatever way the Lord leads you. He is a true brother in Christ and really wants to have purity in his life. God Bless Deacon Pepper Special thanks to Elise McLaughlin for use of the picture Drew’s story is below on how he is overcoming Christian sexual addiction, please pray for him.
Now as time passed (still single) I grew tired of fighting and allowed my flesh desires to do what he wants. Masturbation became more frequent and less repentant (if there is such a thing) and I was slowly returning to porn. It was only when I was aware of it’s affect on my relationship with God and others close to me that I remembered my reason to fight back. I fight for Christ. I am just thankful for this fighting spirit that God has given me. For I believe that one of the marks of a Christian is not a perfect life but a life that fights.
It seems that every time I’m depressed I seek porn for comfort instead of God. Help me. Thank you so much. Thank you for extending Christ’s love to me. May He reward you. If you have the time please leave a comment encouraging him in his battle against Christian sexual addiction.
Even though there are probably many female sexual addiction stories out there this one really touched my heart.
Her Story
I was 18 years old at the time (I’m now 19), and about 60 pounds overweight. I was depressed all the time, feeling like I was much older and uglier than my peers. One day he gave me the knowledge that he gave Daniel, that is, to eat only fruits, vegetables, and drink only water. This is now called the raw food diet. I’ve been on it ever since, and now when I walk down the street, I get more than a few glances from men. I was very thankful to God at first, but then it turned into pride. Pride for being beautiful, for breaking an addiction that most Americans can’t, and I began to feel like God’s “special” child, because during this time, God also revealed to me the gravity of the sin in the world, especially this country, and I felt so superior and detached from it. This was all prideful thinking.
For some reason jealousy entered into my heart sometime after this, and whenever an attractive woman would walk buy, I would accuse him of checking her out. Gracious as he was, he suffered me and made jokes whenever I did it. But sometimes on nights when we weren’t together (we have been sleeping together and I repent for this now also) I would research what he had been looking up on the internet. One night I found a blog that he had written about wanting to have sex with another girl. I was devastated, feeling like with all the time we spent together that we had no secrets. At the time I viewed myself as very innocent, not even looking at attractive men with lust because my love for him made them invisible.
We also didn’t have hardly any money, being jobless. I began to look at pornography I think a little bit before this time, so when he would stay at his house, I’d use that time to look at things that I couldn’t with him around. Then I discovered craigslist.com, and the casual encounters section. My heart was so hardened, and I found this section exciting. First just reading for kicks, then I found an ad that offered money for sex. I was tempted, and I gave into it, reasoning that he would never know and that would allow me the rest of the night to buy yummy (healthy) things to eat. I spat in God’s face.
That was when I became borderline suicidal. Who had I become? I love my fiancé, so how could I do this? And how could I even reason that I would get away with it? One night I was about to do it again, but a Christian responded to my ad. At first he seemed interested, but then confessed that he was a youth group leader and couldn’t do it, then talked me out of doing it too. I was relieved that night, feeling like God had sent him to me. But the gravity of my sin is that I half repented then did it again after that. The attention and money I got from it was a major temptation. The men always commented on how beautiful I was. But after that I stopped what I was doing, feeling the emptiness inside my heart, and that God would never listen to me again. I began reading everything I could about God and forgiveness. One article I found said that God wouldn’t forgive someone who once knew him, but turned away, because Jesus can’t be crucified again. And another thing I read said that God doesn’t forgive Christians who willfully commit sins, having the knowledge that what they’re doing is wrong. I am afraid that God has taken his Holy Spirit from me. I have repented so many times, and am trying to have faith that he has forgiven me, but the doubt still lingers. Also, I don’t know what I would do without my fiancé. I love him so much and am sick to my stomach sorry for what I did. The constant terror of God taking him away from me haunts me every day, but from now on I want to humbly obey His word. Can I be forgiven? Should I tell my fiancé? Or should I have hope that God will let me keep him if I turn away from all unrighteousness? Also, last year I earnestly asked God who I was to Him, and He said that I was His blessed one. Do you think he meant that, despite the knowledge of what I was going to do?
If anybody ever need prayer it is this sister. Thank you for taking the time to read one of the best female addiction stories I have had he honor of receiving on my website.
Breaking Free Thanks Deacon Pepper for your encouraging email. It is really great to know that you have prayed for me. I have gotten back into studying the bible and praying and feel forgiven for what I did. I had a dream a couple nights ago that I think was meant to confirm that He forgave me. It’s really weird. I was in a bathroom; outside it were people that I used to know from church. The bathroom was really dirty, and I discovered that it was also a trash dump and I was about to be compacted! At the last moment I cried out “help!” and the garbage men heard me and lifted me out.
Please Pray This is one of the most encouraging female sexual addiction stories, God Bless everybody who has read it. Please pray for her if you get a chance. Here is a video by Shelly Luben that tells the tragic story of porn stars that have died and how they died. Just a sneak peek there are a lot of drug overdoses and suicides. Not to ruin it for you just want to prepare a little for what you are about to watch. This video will change your mind on how you view the porn and all the lives it is destorying. There is nothing more powerful than the truth.
God Bless who ever wrote this article at XXX Church. If you ever come to a place in dealing with Christian sexual addiction that you want to help others break free here is a good checklist to see if you have what it takes. Understand that these are guidelines and you can gain skills that you don’t have or may be weak in. Here are the 5 skills in a nutshell
If you want to read the full article I think it is a great idea even if we are still dealing with Christian sexual addiction. It is nice to take a peak into what the future might look like to see that all the battles your fighting could be used to help somebody else. Personally one thing I love about this website is I get to use the battles I’ve been through to help encourage others. If you wanted to subscribe to my podcast it would not only bless me as I pray for others, but will bless you as you pray for them as well. That is why I set up my podcast so we can ask God to solve peoples problems instead of just letting them try to figure it out on their own.
God Bless Deacon Pepper
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I need prayers for my sexual addiction or pornography addiction.
My name is Brenda. My husband, is a Christian in theory, but because of his addiction, he is not really a Christian at heart. His addiction started when he was in middle school by being a “peeping tom”. It progressed in college with pornography. 
You asked me to share my story so here i am. It started when i was eleven. I found japanese cartoonish pictures. after that i would return to the site once a month. I would feel guilty for weeks after and i would promise myself i would never do it again. What a freaking lie. 
My story is ‘common’ as every youth. I was addicted to porn and masturbation. But when I offered my whole life to Christ, I saw the need to break free from my addiction. There were materials and books that helped me such as ‘Bondage Breaker’, ‘Living Waters’, ‘Not Even A Hint’, etc. I also asked advice and prayers from fellow Christians. And by God’s grace I threw away all my pornographic materials and started a habit of just using the internet at public places.
But despite removing pornography there is still plain old lust (masturbation, and looking lustfully at others) to deal with. And so far I have learned that the best way to deal with lust is to pray without ceasing, to constantly read the Bible and to rely on the Holy Spirit not on my own strength. There are times that I am victorious, but there are also times that I yield to temptations. It is during those times that I repent and be washed by the blood of Christ, and fight again. All is by God’s daily sufficient grace.
Now as time passed (still single) I grew tired of fighting and allowed my flesh desires to do what he wants. Masturbation became more frequent and less repentant (if there is such a thing) and I was slowly returning to porn. It was only when I was aware of it’s affect on my relationship with God and others close to me that I remembered my reason to fight back. I fight for Christ.
I too am also in need your prayers and also accountability. I am just beginning to studying theology and the spirtual warfare is already leaving me weary. I thought I had already passed this hurdle in my life, but the temptations have returned and is more stronger than before.
Okay this is a long story, but for you to understand the degree of my sin, I need to tell it. God answered a huge prayer for me last year. I had been praying for God to restore my youth and put a smile back on my face.
The empathy I once had for people when I was fat was replaced with a feeling like I was better than them. On top of that, my boyfriend also began eating the same things I ate, and lost a lot of weight too, so I felt even better about MYSELF. So this was the pride, now here is the fall: My boyfriend proposed to me in May of this year. We have been inseparable for going on two years now, so I accepted.
Although I confronted him and he thoroughly apologized, begging on his knees for forgiveness, this was the turning point where I lost all faith in him and began doubting him constantly (in my mind, not telling him because he thought that I had forgiven him.) In August of this year, he began to distance himself from me for some reason, only staying with me every other night. This broke my heart also, because we were inseparable and I felt like he was growing tired of me.
This became an addiction. I didn’t enjoy having sex with strange men, but I felt in control somehow, being able to respond to who I wanted, doing the deed for about an hour, then no longer being without money for whatever I wanted. I did this several times. The first time I didn’t even feel guilty, but then I had sex with a married man, and another married man after that.
