Break Free from Sexual Addiction by Getting God Involved

The most powerful thing I do at this website is pray for people who want to break free from Christian sexual addiction.

The process is 4 simple steps that are completly anonymous:

1. Leave your name and what you want prayer for in the comment section.
2. I will be notified almost immediatly though my email that somebody left a comment.
3. I take all the comments/prayer requests and pray for them.
4. I have a list of people with similar stuggles and ask them to pray as well.
   

If you’ve tried other things and they didn’t work how about giving prayer a chance?

Please Please Please leave your prayer request below so that I can pray for you.

God Bless, Deacon Pepper

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Sometimes, the tools and weapons I gave are not enough. Some of us, including myself, need more. We have spent a long time looking at porn and many times it can be war, to be free from it.

Personally, I would not trade my journey for anything. The victories God has given me have been beyond awesome and have drawn me closer to the Lord.

My prayer for each one of you is that through your battle you connect with God more deeply.

Bonus #1

The first bonus is probably the best way understand yourself and how to renew you mind as well as control you flesh. In this study guide by Setting the captives free will walk you through an indepth course to be free from sexual sin and sexual impurity. The time you spend doing this course will be time well spent. One comment I read for this study course was that the person was able to stay porn free while they were going through it.

After you click on the link you will need to scroll down the page to register with them. It is a pretty easy setup. Here is the link:

http://www.settingcaptivesfree.com/courses/way-of-purity

Bonus #2

The next bonus is also a online purity course which is just as good as the first one. The author of porn-free.org makes and it comes in 2 parts called Freedom Journey 1 and 2. It has easy to follow sections and there is no need to sign up needed. Here are the links:

Freedom Journey Part 1
http://porn-free.org/freedom_journey.htm

Freedom Journey Part 2
http://porn-free.org/freedom_journey2.htm

God Bless

God Loves You And So Do I,

–Deacon Pepper

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The First Step

Welcome to the first step in you journey. One of the most important weapons you will need in your battle is a “Safe Search.”

Your First Weapon To Be Porn Free

The first weapon is all about keeping yourself safe online when you use a search engine. ChristiaNet1.com was able to create a Google Search that automatically turns on a “Safe Search.” Many time porn sites will target key words that have little or nothing to do with their site. They do this to get the description or images in front of you, which they hope will suck you in.

By using Safe Search you eliminate that possibility. Use this site to give yourself the online accountablity you need. Also, I have it set as my home page so I don’t even have to think about it. Here is the link:

http://christianet1.com

Part 1 – Let’s begin your journey by clicking on the the link below to understand how much God loves you and the plans he has for you life.

http://fathersloveletter.com/fllvideos.html

Part 2 – Here is the next link to an fantastic article that puts into words what you just watched in the first video. I personally recommend you read it out loud to yourself. By saying it out loud it has a way of changing a person.

http://seekgod.org/bible/letterfromgod.html

16 Power Packed Prayers

Here are the 16 different prayers

http://www.porn-free.org/sample_prayers.htm

The two prayer links that you will need to click on are the “forgiveness and unforgiveness” and “fresh filling with the Holy Spirit.” You can locate them from the link above or to make it easier I have placed the two links below.

http://www.porn-free.org/unforgiveness.htm (The prayer is located at the bottom of the article)

http://www.porn-free.org/prayers_Holy_Spirit.htm

The next life changing prayer you need to pray is the “inviting God to work in your life” prayer. Again, I have placed the link below for that one also.

http://www.porn-free.org/prayers_invite_God.htm

Congratulations you have completed step 1. This is pretty exciting for me because I know that when people take the first step toward God, he starts to move and work in their lives.

Remember: Don’t give up the fight. It doesn’t matter how many times you fall down, it matters how many times you get back up.

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You Have Made It

Congratulations! You have made it to your final day. The first 3 days were probably quite a journey for you. I am sure that you are getting a lot out of all the tools I have shown you. They sure have made a difference in my life. Like I said before, these tools are the best ones I have found over the past 10 years.

This weapon will shut porn off in your life. This is a big step, because some or most of our sexual sins are triggered by porn. I have experienced this must have weapon myself and can honestly say it makes a world of difference.

The “Must Have” Weapon

This weapon has helped many people become porn free and is the best weapon out there you could possible have. Some of you may have guessed it already, it is an Internet filter. Currently, I believe Safe Eyes is the best one on the market and is the one my family uses. It is a service subscription which means you will pay a yearly fee. The fee is a good price at $50 dollars a year, which breaks down to about $4.20 a month. Not a bad price for purity.

Also, on a side not, do not buy Safe Eyes if you can not afford it. If you are strapped for cash please use all the other free tools until you can afford it. I have always wanted to create a blessing for people, not a burden. Here is the link:

www.SafeEyes.com

Many people who come to my site do not make it this far, but you did. And if you reading this I know you are somebody who desires purity in their life and to be porn free. I know God will bless you because you are pursing His purpose for you life. Not only do you get to become porn free, but you get to enjoy all the blessings of it as well. I am proud of you for completing these 4 days to become porn free. Remember, if you ever need prayer leave it on my site and I will pray for you.

God Loves You And So Do I,

–Deacon Pepper

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Step 1 Purity Devotionals

What I have found so far is two daily devotional websites dedicated to battling all types of sexual addiction. The first one I will list has all its devotions based on scripture. This is a wonderful benefit because you can have scripture to take along in your journey to fight the enemy. Porn Free is a pretty awesome website in general, which gives you devotionals for the whole year. The link is:

http://www.porn-free.org/Devotions/devotions.htm

The second website I found does a good job but does not go in depth as much as the first one. If you are in a hurry or real busy (it is a 3 min devotion) this one is great. Another idea for this second on is if you fell you need extra strength for the day you could do this one along with the first one to give you that extra power. They change the devotional daily, so by clicking on the link below you will have a fresh one everyday. 

http://www.exxit.org/view.php

A personal note on devotions is you only get out what you put in. If you do have a sexual sin you are fighting and tell yourself I will read these everyday and I’ll be fine, you will be missing the point of these. Devotions are a wonderful time to connect with God. It is a time to lay down the things you have to do for the day and be able to just focus on Him. This can also work if you only have 3 min. The time isn’t important, what is important is if you come to the devotion prepared to learn and grow from it.

Step 2 Purity Podcast and Purity Radio

This is one of the few tools you can take on the road with you. You can subscribe to both of these via iTunes. These two tools are great for learning about what sexual purity is and what it is not. It is a process to start thinking about sexual purity in a correct way. This is a process you must begin.

I recommend that both of these podcast be listened to in conjunction with one another. There are a lot of past shows you can listen to if the topic relates to what you are going through.

The first podcast, as I mentioned yesterday, is Blazing Grace. The show is put on by Jayson Groves and Taff Wennik. These guys are honest as well as understanding. Personally, I enjoy when they have guest appearances. Here is the link:

http://www.urbansermons.org/f/wiki/blazing-grace-radio-show

The second podcast is Pure Sex Radio, which can be listened to online as well as via podcast. Their slogan tells everything about them (Educate, Encourage, Equip). They deal with the issues of porn, lust and sexual addiction. Through their teaching, you will begin to understand how to thing correctly about these issues. To subscribe to Pure Sex Radio use the “subscribe” link on the page below. Here is the link:

http://bebroken.com/bb/ed/radio/index.shtml

God Loves You And So Do I,
–Deacon Pepper

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Lets Get Started

Hope you enjoyed day 1 and if you haven’t prayed the prayers, then you need to go back and do so. As we go through these days I will be saying a lot of stuff like “don’t expect to achieve purity if you don’t do the steps.” If I offend you I apologize in advance. I do understand pain, shame and guilt. I have had much of that in my life as well. But my desire is to see you break the cycle you are in and I know only giving 90 percent won’t cut it. You have to commit to go all the way with this thing or it will not work.

I think you get the point. Now onto the good stuff.

Welcome To Blazing Grace Ministries

Even though you may have not heard of them they are committed to helping men and women understand sexual sin. They have put together a collection of amazing articles that will show you where you are at in you battle and where you need to go.

The Beginning
1. The first article you need to read explains the effects of casual porn and porn addiction.

• http://www.urbansermons.org/f/wiki/casual-porn-use
• http://www.urbansermons.org/f/wiki/effects-sex-addiction

The Middle
2. Next, if the 4 key areas you need to master in your battle against sexual sin.

• http://www.urbansermons.org/f/wiki/what-do-battle-against-sexual-sin

The End
3. Third, is the next step you will battle for after you have achieve physical control over your sexual sin.

• http://www.blazinggrace.org/cms/bg/sexualsobriety

Your Significant Other (Relationship Stuff)
4. Lastly, if you are married or in a relationship than these are two “must read” articles to help you and your significant other.

• http://www.urbansermons.org/f/closing-chasm
• http://www.urbansermons.org/f/wiki/healing-wives-whove-been-hurt-adultery-porn-addiction

Below I have also included the link to the article library at Blazing Grace, which has many more articles to help you on you way. I feel I have listed the ones that lay out the road to victory. Also, Blazing Grace has a purity podcast that I would highly, highly recommend.

• http://www.urbanministry.org/bg/articlelibrary

You can now understand the journey you are about to start from beginning to end. You are going to have some serious testimonies along this journey if you stay on it. Don’t forget what God has done for you and is doing in you. I cannot explain how awesome purity feels once you start achieving it. Let me just say that purity will probably be, apart from your salvation, the area you will be most proud of.

Remember, it doesn’t matter if you fall down or how many times you fall down, what matters is that you get back up.

God Loves You And So Do I,
–Deacon Pepper

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God Bless who ever wrote this article at XXX Church.

If you ever come to a place in dealing with Christian sexual addiction that you want to help others break free here is a good checklist to see if you have what it takes. Understand that these are guidelines and you can gain skills that you don’t have or may be weak in.

Here are the 5 skills in a nutshell

• Transparency
• Relate-ability
• Patience
• Plan
• Make sure your strong enough that you don’t fall yourself.

If you want to read the full article

Here is the link

I think it is a great idea even if we are still dealing with Christian sexual addiction. It is nice to take a peak into what the future might look like to see that all the battles your fighting could be used to help somebody else.

Personally one thing I love about this website is I get to use the battles I’ve been through to help encourage others.

If you wanted to subscribe to my podcast it would not only bless me as I pray for others, but will bless you as you pray for them as well. That is why I set up my podcast so we can ask God to solve peoples problems instead of just letting them try to figure it out on their own.

God Bless

Deacon Pepper

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Just read this post on Blazing Grace about a guy who now can’t have children becuase of masturbation. I know it may sound kind of far fetched but it is one of those things that nobody tells anybody else about the consequences of masturbation or masturbation addiction.

It also love the last paragraph that talks about making sure you give yourself completly to your wife with all your mind body and soul.

Here is the link

God Bless all of you and remember God loves you and so do I. Keep on fighting against Christian sexual addiction it does pay off and it does get easier.

Deacon Pepper

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Or, another common scenario, you’re looking through you tube for some interesting videos and after a blink of eye you’re caught watching porn. The next thing you know you’ve already masturbated. Then, you ask yourself, did that just happen and is that Christian sexual addiction?

It is my purpose to help others break free from this type of bondage. Please let me bless you with my podcast.

You messed up, so how do you make things right?

Our wonderful counselor, Jesus, brings us the answer. I’ll paraphrase and modernize a story that our Counselor tells us about two men that you might find encouraging. Click here to read the original story. The first man was an esteemed elder at the local church. He was a good man and did a lot of great things; his name was Elder Good.

The second man was a shady collections agent, who had done quite a few devious deals to get as much profit from his clients as possible. His name was Agent Bad. As the story goes Elder Good and Agent Bad both drove to the church to pray. There were a couple of people inside, so Elder Good went in and offered up a prayer to God. He told God about all the great things that he had been doing, such as, fasting and tithing his income. He also thanked God that he wasn’t like other people in the world, some of which were unjust, adulators, extortionists, or even like Agent Bad whom he saw driving to the church to pray.

Now, Agent Bad knew he wanted to pray to God. He felt terrible about the shady things he had done. In fact, one of the latest things he’d done that made him feel terrible was looking up porn on the Internet and masturbating. Agent Bad knew he couldn’t justify all the things he had done wrong; he didn’t have a bag full of exceptional things like Elder Good had. Agent Bad felt too ashamed to go into the church so instead put his head down on his steering wheel and started to cry. He thought about all of his family and friends who counted on him as a role model and the trust that he had broken with them.

His crying soon turned into sobbing, and he hit himself on the chest because he felt miserable. All he could get out between sobs was, “God have mercy on me, because I’m a sinner.” Agent Bad didn’t have a whole lot more to say than that; it was all he could get out. The two men then went home, but the curious thing was that Elder Good didn’t feel any different after praying.

On the other hand, Agent Bad felt terrific. It was like he had a new energy and enthusiasm about him, like the day he had graduated from collections school. Agent Bad felt like the world was a jug and he had the cork. The best word that he could use to describe what happened to him after praying on his steering wheel was that he felt justified.

Agent Bad was even considering changing his last name:)

It’s not what you say, but how you say it.

Have you ever heard this growing up? Maybe you’ve even said it to your own children. If you did hear it growing up, it was probably in a situation where you had done something wrong and needed to apologize. The only problem was that you didn’t feel sorry, so instead you just said the words, “I’m sorry”. Then an adult would say “you need to say it like you mean it”.

I believe this is what the story above is trying to teach us about Christian sexual addiction. There are times when Christians come to God with just the words, “I’m sorry.” When we come to God, and ask for forgiveness, we need to humble ourselves. Only by humbling ourselves will we feel justified. Many times when Christians sin they feel so unworthy, much like agent Bad did in the parking lot.

I’ve known people who have felt like kneeling before God was even too high of a position to take, but would rather lie down on their faces before him when confessing. These people then start pouring their heart out to God.

Their prayers may go something like this….. “God, I don’t understand why I keep doing this. I try over and over again but I keep failing. I just feel horrible right now and so disconnected from you. I’m angry and mad at myself for doing this and I need for you to forgive me for this. I hate feeling so dirty inside. God please forgive me. I need you in my life; I don’t ever want to do this again. Have mercy on me God; I’m a sinner. Let me feel you again God. Please, forgive me. I really need you too.”

Feeling justified won’t happen by simply repeating the prayer I just presented. Instead, it is pouring out your heart to God until there is no more to pour out. This is what the Bible talks about when it says you need to humble yourself. Agent Bad walked away justified because he humbled himself, in which God exalted him, and made him feel great.

Elder Good, on the other hand, didn’t humble himself at all and when he was finished praying felt the same way as when he came in. In order to relate this story to Christian sexual addiction, I believe this is the way Christians feel after they sin.

Christians feel humiliated because of what they just did, but to feel justified they must humble themselves further. I’m sure that after looking at porn and masturbating most people don’t feel a burning desire to pray to God, but the cost of not making things right with God can have a much larger negative impact.

Here are some of the things that people can experience after looking at porn and masturbating:

1. Addiction Anger and grievances toward God
2. Separation from God Feeling blocked from God’s love working through you
3. Strongholds formed
4. Spiritual confusion
5. Emotional confusion
6. Disconnect from a spouse
7. Distorted understanding of love Long-lasting memories
8. Loneliness Temperamental and depressed
9. Loss of control
10. Lack of enjoyment or happiness
11. Lack of peace or contentment
12. Little to no communication with a spouse
13. Everything seems to turn into a temptation
14. Old lust memories start coming back
15. The mind wanders and fantasizes
16. Lack of motivation to do anything
17. Nothing seems important

A Better Way.

Please don’t sell yourself short. When God forgives you, he also wants you to feel forgiven. I know sometimes Christians feel like they need to punish themselves for their Christian sexual addiction.

This is a dangerous way to live because if you feel bad long enough you’ll probably have a need to feel better and there is a good chance that you will turn back to porn. If you let this self-punishment cycle continue it can lead to some major destruction in your life and will eventually start affecting the people around you.

What’s the alternative? Just humble yourself! Take advantage of the wonderful forgiveness and justification that God has to offer. God isn’t asking you to beat yourself up or condemn yourself for your Christian sexual addiction. When Jesus died on the cross he died for the sin of you looking at porn on the Internet and then masturbating. If you hold onto that sin then what you are saying is, I know God forgave me, but I’m not going to do what it takes to feel forgiven. I’m sure this makes God sad, since he already provided a way to take away not only your sins but all the guilt and shame as well for any Christian sexual addiction.

God is not asking you to give up your money, house or spending cash. All he is asking is that you humble your self. It’s not hard to do. Just give him your heart; it’s free anyways.

Again all I ask is let me bless you with my podcast, it would be an incredible incouragement to have you sign up. We are in this together.

God Bless, Deacon Pepper

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